Proposal: Add CRC to CRF

Conflict Resolution Committee addendum to Conflict Resolution Flow
(May)

Summary: Adds the CRC to the CRF. Seek to offer a more functional process for conflict exploration without having to move to formal “consequences” for broken agreements. This adds the CRC committee as a resoure to the CRF.

Proposal: Adds the CRC to the Conflict Resolution Flow, as a resources for #3, and also to mitigate the formal process and escalation in #4.

1.) Check in with yourself first. Is this an issue that needs to be addressed for your own or the community’s well-being, or is it just a moment’s irritation? Do you need the voice of the person you’re having difficulty with to resolve it, or can you look within yourself to understand and defuse the situation?

2.) Check in with the other person next. If your conflict involves another person, or people, have you addressed it directly with them? Their voice should often be the first you seek for resolution. Are you ready to talk to them in a way that permits both of you to be heard, or are you still in the throes of emotion about the conflict? Take time, take a breath, take a walk if you need to.

3.) Check in with your immediate circle next. Is there a friend you can discuss the conflict with to give you some additional perspective? (Remember the difference between venting – perfectly fine – and receiving another viewpoint: be ready in the second case to hear that you might have contributed to the situation in some way. Ask for the space you need from someone you love.) Is there a person who both parties trust to ground the interaction, who can help both people to hear each other calmly (another member of Nomenus, a longtime member of the Faerie community, a caretaker on the land)? That person can be there to simply watch emotional vibes, or to structure the conversation more closely, or whatever you can imagine. Is there a format for group mediation that you would prefer for conflict resolution? Which voices should be involved? The CRC is a resource for this step.

4.) Check in with the broader community. Do you need to become a formal issue handled by CRC? If this is not fruitful, another possibility is engageing outside, professional help: arbitration, mediation, etc. CRC committee can be resources for discussing this. Another consideration is whether the issue needs to be addressed by the whole group? The CRC can also help you to bring the issue/concern to the whole group in the appropriate way. This could go from a small guided discussion, to a structured meeting with an officer or other member, to CoCo, and finally to Great Circle. On the land, this part might start at Land Meeting, then COTL, then CoCo up to Great Circle.

last edited 2011 jphartsong